Hey George,
Thank you for reaching out to us! I’m sorry about this issue you are experiencing.
Since you are having problems to automatically update ECP from within the WordPress Dashboard, I would suggest you to update it manually.
The process is pretty simple and you will find all information you need here.
Basically, you will have to access your server via FTP, head over to wp-content/plugins/ rename the existing “events-calendar-pro” directory to something else (you can also move this directory to another place or simply delete it, it’s up to you!), download the latest version of Events Calendar PRO from your Downloads page and upload it to the plugins directory via FTP.
Let me know if you need anything else in the mean time and I’ll be happy to assist!
Regards,
Patricia