Howdy achildgrows1,
That is certainly slow! That’s no good.
There is one possible solution. Could you try pasting this snippet in your theme’s functions.php? http://pastebin.com/CmKMxrHE That will slightly adjust your MySQL settings and has on occassion fixed issues of slowness.
If the above did not fix it though, I unfortunately have bad news. You probably need a faster server, particularly a database server. We have worked extremely hard to make our calendar as performant as possible. We dedicated 4 releases this summer to squeezing out every last drop of performance we could. In the end, if a properly configured server is running our plugin is that slow it probably just can not handle a calendar/WP application without being upgraded.
Please let me know if that first snippet worked. And do you have any questions I can answer, or any way I can help you further? Thanks!
Cheers!
– Brook