Good evening Mark and welcome back!
Thank you for reaching out to us.
We are sorry to hear about the server being overloaded while simply trying to update an event. Yikes!
I would love to help you with this topic.
You are correct, I would recommend the testing for conflicts procedure.
Some plugins sometimes conflict with ours or somehow become memory hogs tied to actions related to our plugins.
Either way, I would also encourage upgrading your PHP version if you can (after a good backup of course). WordPress actually recommends 5.6+, but typically 5.4+ is fine for now.
You might also want to increase the max_execution_time = 30 to max_execution_time = 300.
Let me know if that helps.
Have a great day!
Geoff B.